This was a letter from a young woman who bought all three of my books. She told me when I asked her what she thought of them, that she cried after she read them. I can honestly say, I've got that memory on my top five of most amazing moments in my life. It makes everything, the ups and downs, the disappointments and the uncomfortable openness needed in order to write books about orgasms, worth it.

This is a small section of her letter;
"After reading your books I feel compelled to write to you personally, I have so much I could share with you, I’m not even sure where to begin. Let me confirm that you are in fact helping people. Reading your book was PIVOTAL for me. I feel like YOUR BOOK FOUND ME. I have had nothing but doubts, and questions, and curiosities about my body and pleasure and being truly connected with myself. It’s hard to explain but it felt like your books gave me ‘permission’ I needed, allowing myself the right to explore, uncover and pursue the pleasure that has been locked up inside of me for so long."

When one ventures into an enterprise as I did, of writing books pertaining to an incredibly personal subject, still taboo even in this day and age, you imagine helping a multitude. At the end of the day that's up to the universe. I've put it out there, and continue to make efforts to reach people (although judging by my blogging and tweeting and Facebook page people would think I've fallen off the planet; truth is I am not comfortable with social media… not with this topic) but what will be will be. And hearing one woman tell me she felt freed by the information I put on those pages, it validated every effort I had ever made in regards to the Much Better Than Chocolate Series.

It's great to hear the man take the initiative! What a wonderful partner you are to care enough and find advice on how to improve your skills for the benefit of your partner. In answer to your question, it would be great if she had some input here as well, because I think, if you're doing everything the same and sometimes she climaxes, and sometimes she doesn't, it is important to talk to her about it as well.

The great news for both of you is that she DOES CLIMAX WITH YOU! So you are doing it right! Many factors come into play when someone is trying to orgasm, and you won't be able to answer these, but maybe you could discuss them with her. The most important factor is her mental participation. Was her mind on the dishes, or on more erotic thoughts..... was she in the mood? The mind is our biggest 'sexual organ'... without it being properly engaged, no orgasm can occur. Try having an orgasm after a stressful day at work where you can't get an argument out of your head.... takes a miracle to have a sensual experience when you are hearing your boss complaining in the recesses of your mind about something you're responsible for.

Factor number two; environment. Were you trying it somewhere different? Was she comfortable or was it in a different or awkward position.... I find it hard to orgasm if I'm trying to balance between a chair and the kitchen counter, if not impossible. Depending on how difficult a time you have to get her to orgasm, where you are attempting this may play a big factor. Until you are both overly confident in her 'reaction' to what you're doing, stick to the most comfortable, un-interrupted place you have. Some people are turned on by doing it somewhere they might get caught while others can have one ear perked at all times listening for someone coming and it may prove too much of a distraction to concentrate at the task at hand so to speak.

Lastly, throughout a woman's monthly cycle her sensitivity can vary. Sometimes she may like a little more pressure than normal, and vice versa, as well as a variation in speed. Like I said, if you're doing everything the same, and you did manage to bring her to orgasm in the past, then the answers you seek will come from her, but now you are forearmed with a little more information on what to enquire about. Good luck in your quest, and a big climax hats off to you for taking the time out and show you care. :)

I had dinner with a lovely woman the other night who had purchased my book. She proceeded to tell me how she had never orgasmed before, but since reading my book and applying the information she climaxed during sex for the first time in her life! I was ecstatic for her. I can't tell you how awesome it feels to help someone achieve this. She also told me she's become somewhat addicted to this new found freedom, and wants to do it all the time! Helping someone get 100% sexual fulfillment is reward in itself for me.... but secretly (or not so secretly as I'm blogging it) I want to create an army....

The Everything To Do With Sex show in London Ontario was a lot of fun. My booth was inviting with a four poster bed and romantic curtains. People were curious and easy going. Being on my feet for 14 hours straight wasn't so much fun but it's amazing how adrenaline can boost your energy levels to get you through times such as those. There was great entertainment and lots to shop for. But what I found at the London show was so much more than all of that. I found a charity that I was unaware of and knew immediately I wanted to help. I am elated to know that there are people willing to donate their time and effort to help women gain back what is a true blessing and gift that was given to them as a part of their birth right.
    Meet Clitoraid. 

The goal of Clitoraid's "Adopt a Clitoris" program is to create real, long lasting changes for women who have been forced to experience clitoral excision or genital mutilation against their will.

You can read up more about them on my site,www.climaxhelp.com/clitoraidINFO.html or visit them directly at Clitoraid.org. 10% of all my books sales net revenue goes directly to Clitoraid. Like I said, I was happy to find them, and want to assist in any way I can. Can you imagine, they can restore a clitoris so that it can do exactly what nature had intended it do. Give pleasure. What better gift is there?

I have had the site up since 2010 and sales have been steady however I receive a lot of bounce out's (meaning people come to the site but leave soon after) as porn searchers stumble across me then leave when they realize it's not a porn site. Go ask Alice is still the first site that comes up when someone searches for 'how do I have an orgasm during intercourse'. I am hopeful to surpass them in the listings, since as my marketing company agrees, when it comes to this e-book of mine there is really no competition for it. However, that being said, there are a lot of magazines, and blogs trying to give advice on having an orgasm. These outlets unfortunately fall short and thus was one of my reason's for writing the book. I remember being frustrated myself when I was looking for help. All I could find were thick books in bookstores. Right then and there, I'd stop in my tracks; just seeing a half inch thick book made me feel like the task at hand was impossible. I would pass on buying the book. After flipping through and realizing the amount of useless filler information that existed, I knew my searching would result in more frustration than help.

After I discovered, quite by accident, how to have an orgasm during intercourse without additional stimulation from hands, or vibrating sexual aids, I remember thinking to myself, "I should write the simple points down, and offer it to those who have still not found the way to climax during intercourse". It was many years later that I actually did write the book. I thought it would be a great e-book, and Much Better Than Chocolate - A woman's guide to achieving an orgasm through intercourse was born. I don't want to gouge anybody, so I kept the price of my e-book low, purposely, at $7.99. Someone who read it recently said I should charge 14.97. I think when you buy a paperback at a store, you're paying for the physical product, plus, my book is short at 28 pages. I know the information is invaluable if it helps someone to experience an orgasm during intercourse, however I want to keep it completely affordable.

I also received questions about how to have an orgasm with a partner alone. I then decided to write two other books: one for having an orgasm with your partner, and one for experiencing one on your own.

I find it sad that we live in a society which is so uptight when it comes to the topic. There are many young people who have to stumble around in the dark, discovering sexuality as they go along. Hopefully their drive hasn't been too wilted by our society's stifling sexual attitude so that they go forth and find great pleasure and joy in their own sexuality. And, here's to further wishing for them to find great partners who are as open, ready and willing to explore, discover and be comfortable with their sexual experiences. "Everybody comes" should be embraced as a sexual motto. Maybe I'll make that on a T-shirt. ; )

It must be frustrating for males when it comes to pleasing their partner's during intercourse. I know my first few partner's were just as frustrated as I was when it came to getting me to reach orgasm with sex alone. Let me tell you, it wasn't fun on my end either.

I am a very sexual person. Orgasm's are important to me and when I went to research the subject because I thought surely there must be an answer out there all I got were the very same answers out there today. Between 70 to 80 percent of women don't have an orgasm this way, so stimulate yourself during the act, or use toys or maybe just enjoy the act without expecting an orgasm. How utterly disappointing.

Then, the day came when I did a few things different while telling him to continue to do what he was doing. I persevered and finally had a breakthrough orgasm. Since then, I can orgasm every time and not just once. Multiple times. Sounds like a cheesy sales pitch but it's simply the truth. Women can orgasm during sex; I know–I'm one of them. From going through the first six years when I became sexually active and never having an orgasm during sex, to suddenly having one or more, I know of the frustrations. If I had of given up with the advice I received, I would still be sexually orgasm-less. I'm so thankful I persevered.

Hoping to help women out there who are frustrated the same way I was, I wrote it all down and created a small, to the point guide. If you care for more information on my story in further detail there's an interview link there as well at ww.climaxhelp.com.

For any couples or women out there that are frustrated because of lack of sexual orgasm, don't give up. We come into a world of little and no information on the act of sex because of the massive taboos surrounding it. Good luck.

Today I heard it again. Women don't have orgasm's during intercourse so just enjoy the act of making love and don't worry about your climax. I hope all seekers search for and find better information than what's generally available. You can orgasm during intercourse without the use of your hands or his hands, or a sexual vibrating aid. Don't give up on this idea if it's important to you. Visit climaxhelp.com for the guide.