It's great to hear the man take the initiative! What a wonderful partner you are to care enough and find advice on how to improve your skills for the benefit of your partner. In answer to your question, it would be great if she had some input here as well, because I think, if you're doing everything the same and sometimes she climaxes, and sometimes she doesn't, it is important to talk to her about it as well.

The great news for both of you is that she DOES CLIMAX WITH YOU! So you are doing it right! Many factors come into play when someone is trying to orgasm, and you won't be able to answer these, but maybe you could discuss them with her. The most important factor is her mental participation. Was her mind on the dishes, or on more erotic thoughts..... was she in the mood? The mind is our biggest 'sexual organ'... without it being properly engaged, no orgasm can occur. Try having an orgasm after a stressful day at work where you can't get an argument out of your head.... takes a miracle to have a sensual experience when you are hearing your boss complaining in the recesses of your mind about something you're responsible for.

Factor number two; environment. Were you trying it somewhere different? Was she comfortable or was it in a different or awkward position.... I find it hard to orgasm if I'm trying to balance between a chair and the kitchen counter, if not impossible. Depending on how difficult a time you have to get her to orgasm, where you are attempting this may play a big factor. Until you are both overly confident in her 'reaction' to what you're doing, stick to the most comfortable, un-interrupted place you have. Some people are turned on by doing it somewhere they might get caught while others can have one ear perked at all times listening for someone coming and it may prove too much of a distraction to concentrate at the task at hand so to speak.

Lastly, throughout a woman's monthly cycle her sensitivity can vary. Sometimes she may like a little more pressure than normal, and vice versa, as well as a variation in speed. Like I said, if you're doing everything the same, and you did manage to bring her to orgasm in the past, then the answers you seek will come from her, but now you are forearmed with a little more information on what to enquire about. Good luck in your quest, and a big climax hats off to you for taking the time out and show you care. :)